Last week a client requested that I compile a list of go-to thoughts for divorcing a terrorist. These are the phrases I want you to have front-of-mind that will help keep you calm and confident despite the bombs being hurled your way.
Thoughts for your ex’s stupid commentary
Of course s/he said that
This doesn’t need to be a problem for me
Thoughts for your ex’s ridiculous requests
My decisions will be about my child, not my ex
It is not a problem if s/he is angry with my decision
I understand this may be disappointing
It is not my job to keep him/her happy
Thoughts for managing brutal letters from your ex’s lawyer
They have to lie when they have a shit case
This poor lawyer is dealing with the worst client
Thoughts for when your kids act like your ex
This rudeness makes sense
I don’t need to give this any oxygen
Thoughts for when your child is struggling
This is his/her unique journey
Pain is a normal part of the life experience
I am the perfect mom/dad for this
There you have it. My top brain hacks for staying sane while divorcing a terrorist.
Post this on your washroom mirror. You got this!