Stacey Mendelson lifeline coaching and consulting
LEGAL ADVOCATE · CUSTODY BATTLE · COACHING FOR COURT · CO-PARENTING
- you are afraid to leave your marriage because your spouse will be vicious
- you are worried about how this will impact your children
- you are getting nasty letters from your ex’s lawyer full of false accusations
- you are living in a state of anxiety, fear, anger and frustration
- your lawyer doesn’t seem to understand the danger of your ex
- your ex involves the kids in the conflict
Let Me Introduce Myself
I’m Stacey Mendelson and I was you. I successfully navigated a vicious divorce and custody battle. I won.
Circumstance required me to wise up and become an expert at navigating family court, custody, vexatious litigation and domestic violence. My son and I survived a “category-5 hurricane divorce” that went on for 4 years. We learned to dodge the bombs being hurled at us. I evolved into a fierce litigant and a proponent of children’s rights in family court.
I am a Certified Life Coach that works exclusively with individuals navigating divorce. I strategically coach people through the battle of their lives.
I will hold your hand through the process and get you there faster, cheaper and smarter. I will help you manage your legals, achieve your custody goals, and a fair settlement. My clients transform from fearful to fierce so they can be amazing parents and winning litigants.
I am an example of what is possible after the storm. I will help you do the same.
How I Can Help You
Divorce Coaching and Consulting
- anticipate dangers and obstacles
- create a safety plan to exit
- collect important documents quickly
- financially strategize
FIND THE BEST LAWYER FOR YOUR CASE
- this is the most common mistake
- the most expensive mistake
- finding the perfect counsel takes know-how
- prep for consults
- I will show you how this is done and help you execute
MANAGE YOUR LAWYER EFFECTIVELY
- set your divorce goals
- manage your legal strategy
- arm your lawyer with the evidence to win
- set agenda and goals for every meeting
- save loads money on legals by staying focused and only using the lawyer for legals
PREPARE YOU FOR A HIGH CONFLICT DIVORCE BATTLE
- learn to anticipate the behaviours of a high-conflict ex
- learn to strategically communicate and disengage
- stop being triggered
- transform from scared and overwhelmed to calm, focused, and confident
CHILD CUSTODY AND ACCESS
- identify and eradicate dangers
- safety train your children
- coach you for a custody evaluation
- set up system to document all access
- keep your kids emotionally well through the storm
- teach you how to co-parent with a high-conflict ex
DOCUMENT AND COLLECT EVIDENCE
- prepare spreadsheets for access, inappropriate parenting, abusive behaviours, reckless depletion of marital funds
- demonstrates patterns of behaviour for court
- identify and collect gifts of evidence
doesn’t have to ruin your life.
Learn the skills and strategies YOU NEED to outsmart your ex.
What Others Have to Say About Stacey
I have nothing but total gratitude to Stacey for helping me through this very scary and challenging process.
From the first second of emailing with Stacey it was very clear I was dealing with an intelligent, strong, empathetic professional who had a deep understanding of what I was going through. Stacey has a wealth of experience and expertise in this area but in addition has an incredibly generous spirit.
Stacey is compassionate and to the point.
Navigating the system in dealing with a Narcissist ex-husband and trying to keep my children safe is the biggest challenge I have ever had in my life. Stacey answers all my questions, gives excellent advice, and has helped me respond to letters from counsel. She has been able to prepare me for what is coming next and she is always totally correct.
This is most certainly Stacey’s higher calling.
I wanted to share something amazing with you! So earlier today I had something happen that would have caused me so much stress and anxiety 2 years ago, regarding my ex. Well, from reading your blogs and hearing everyone else’s stories, that same situation that would have made me cry and curl up into a ball…kind of made me smile. Why? Because from your blogs and posts, I learned how stop being triggered, and to stop hoping he would act like I think he should. I’ve learned his playbook so well that now I am anticipating his antic before they even happen. I cannot thank you enough!!
J.H., NEW YORK
Going through a high conflict divorce has been one of the most stressful and emotionally exhausting times in my entire life. I knew after our first phone call that Stacey was someone who could help me navigate my high conflict divorce. Stacey gets it and I finally felt like I could breathe again. She’s had my back and has supported me through this entire process.
I was stuck with a lawyer that I was unhappy with. Stacey assisted me in vetting new lawyers and was able to use her network of contacts to connect me with a wonderful lawyer who I felt at ease with and had confidence in.
Stacey was able to explain and help me navigate the very complicated legal process and helped me to keep my legal fees low. She was able to take all my information and put everything into easy to understand organized spreadsheets for my lawyer to easily digest the entirely of my situation. She provided me with insightful advice, and a safe place to share my most painful thoughts and feelings. It was nice to have her by my side throughout this process.
IF you are going through a high conflict divorce, or even just thinking about divorcing, I highly recommend contacting Stacey.
I have so many things I want to say about Stacey and how much she has helped me and continues to help me through my high conflict divorce.
My ex decided to leave our marriage in early 2018 and very soon after, I realized that he had been planning his exit for a while and manipulated our finances to benefit him. His goal was to leave the marriage with all of the money and zero financial responsibility. As an “intact” family unit I thought I could protect my kids from his negative behaviours, but now that the unit was fractured, I needed to protect myself and the girls.
Almost overnight, I needed a plan on how to protect me and my kids (age 4 and 7). I was emotionally and financially vulnerable, but somehow I knew enough to ask a ton of questions and seek help. I made some mistakes early on in litigation, but I did the best I could to navigate the situation. My first experience in court was traumatic and the judge sided with my ex. I was left feeling scared, vulnerable and defeated. In that split second I knew that Ontario Family Law was not about right and wrong but is in fact a game that requires strategy without emotion.
I was having doubts about my case and unsure how to move forward to achieve my desired results. I came across a FB post that Stacey had started Lifeline Coaching and Consulting, and I called her immediately. I explained my situation and she understood the person I was dealing with. The relief I felt was indescribable. She understood how to deal with his personality (narcissistic and borderline), and she could see the gaslighting I was experiencing. Most importantly, she had a strategy on how to deal with this type of person in family court. She set my head on straight. The hard truths were spoken and she clearly set out a plan. Stacey was empathetic and validated the reality of my situation.
For those of you just starting you journey, please call Stacey now. I wish I had her support and strategy before I started my journey into litigation because I know I would have done some things differently. Hindsight is 20-20 and I won’t dwell on it now. I am grateful to have her now and I know that she has played a pivotal role in the successes I have had throughout this crazy journey.